Overcoming a Relationship Breakup

Relationships break due to several reasons, and is a stressful and unpleasant situation. You may feel rejected, frustrated, lonely and helpless. However, keep in mind that it is not the end of happiness in your life. There are so many interesting things that you can enjoy. Hence, you should try to overcome the relationship and move on with a positive note.

How to Get Over a Relationship Breakup

You can overcome the grief of a relationship breakup by adopting different ways. Here are some useful tips.
Drain out the emotions: Immediately after the breakup, give yourself some time to drain out your emotions. During this period, you may cry, rave in your anger; grieve at the unfair treatment that you received from your partner.
Help yourself: Don’t frequently recall the pleasant or sad moments from the past. Avoid looking at the mementos of your former relationship like photos, letters, or gift items. Don’t only blame your partner for what had happened. Think about improving yourself, which will be helpful for your future relationships. Forget about the past and think about your future. Don’t feel inferior and learn to love yourself. Keeping yourself busy is the best way to overcome your grief.
Lean on your friends: Your family members and friends are the backbone to support you in your toughest times. They can play a positive role in overcoming this stressful situation. You can share your feelings and problems with them in order to get their support. Enjoy picnics and outings with them. Don’t often talk about your past. As much as possible, try to avoid the topics that cause you stress.
Avoid sad triggers: Avoid the things that remind you of your ex-partner such as songs, movies, or restaurants. During the first few weeks following a breakup, strictly avoid situations that stress you out.
Change your attitude: You need to change your attitude in order to get over a breakup. You should have positive approach towards your life. Don’t get frustrated for being rejected, or take it as a total failure of your life. Try to change your lifestyle and take another chance. Try to find the person who can bring positive changes in your life.
Therapies: You can try clinical hypnotherapy or self-hypnosis. Consult a licensed hypnotherapist for therapy sessions. You can try self-hypnosis in privacy. This therapy will help you to react positively to the emotional problems.
Don’t get frustrated and disappointed due to a relationship breakup. It’s not the end of the world. You need to rebuild your self as a person.

Breaking Up a Relationship

Knowing that things are going sour
In at least one relationship you’ll have in your life, a day will come when you ask yourself, “Is this working?”, or “Will our relationship last?”, or “When’s the right time to break this off?”. Know that it is time to break up if you experience the following symptoms in your relationship:

1. He stops returning your phone calls.
2. He stops taking interest in you and stops listening.
3. He doesn’t notice that you have had a haircut or you are wearing the earrings he had gifted to you.
4. He has endless excuses for why you can’t get together.
5. He never talks about future plans.
6. He ignores intimate talk and is more preoccupied with other stuff.
7. He seems to be ignoring you.

The moment you think that something is wrong in your relationship. It is advised that you talk it over with your partner, and if things don’t seem to work out, get over with it. Don’t torture yourself with a broken relationship. Imagine hitting your head against the wall. Does it hurt yet? If it doesn’t, would you hit it harder? When will it hurt so much that you’ll be forced to stop banging against the wall?

Consider emotional pain like that of physical pain. When will your heart hurt so bad that you stop running after people who make you unhappy? Imagine that every time your heart is broken, your heart muscle gets chipped and torn. Be as protective with your emotions as you would be with your body.

Learn to comprehend where you stand in your relationship. Think of dating as a long road punctuated by traffic lights. Red lights signal danger, yellow lights require caution, and green lights mean keep going but proceed with caution.

You are at a green light if your mate:
1. Loves you without having great expectations or demands.
2. Is responsible and trustworthy.
3. Listens to what you say and does not dominate you.
4. Is open to commitment.
5. Is sensitive and freely expresses his feelings.
6. Respects your sentiments and views and displays respect for self and others.
7. You are comfortable with him and feel safe and secure in his arms.

You’re at a yellow light when:
1. He has hurt your feelings and displays no respect for you and your feelings.
2. Friends are giving you warnings about him, though you’re not sure they’re true.
3. There is a history of bad relationships.
4. You fall in love too fast (without testing and observing).
5. You spend too much time just “hanging out” without doing anything meaningful.
6. He cancels or forgets dates.
7. You wait by the phone or feel you are wasting your time “waiting” for the other to come around.

You know you’re at a red light and it’s time to put on the brakes and think whether you want to continue in this relationship when:
1. You’re experiencing more pain than pleasure.
2. You’re being mentally, physically, or sexually abused.
3. He betrays you or cheats on you.
4. You feel used, abused, or foolish.
5. He keeps secrets from you or lies more often.
6. Either of you has a lot of unresolved anger toward the same or opposite sex.
7. He is pushy, controlling, or obsessed with sex.
8. His life is dangerous (involves guns, drugs, illegal acts).