Physical Attraction in Men and Women

World’s Most Attractive Women
Aishwarya Rai, Keira Knightley, Julia Roberts and Nicole Kidman

World’s Most Attractive Men
George Clooney, Brad Pitt and David Beckham

The movie ‘Laws of Attraction’ is a well-threaded light comedy, wherein two top divorce lawyers, who have never lost a case, both gorgeous and single, stand opposed to each other in court. Audrey is edgy and uptight, a perfectionist, while Dan is more the sloppy, debonair, intuitive type. Both eventually get romantic about each other and ultimately fall in love.

Although attraction is a natural phenomenon, it can surely be channeled. You can behave in such a way that members of the opposite sex can easily get attracted you. Once this attraction is cultivated, you begin to exercise stimulus on others. According to Dr. Albert Scheflen, author of Body Language and the Social Order, even standing in a room is considered an attraction criteria. Your position and action in a room does a lot to attract without you even knowing about it. Therefore, people who tend to be in the center are more likely sources of attraction. Let’s study some more about the laws of human attraction.

Being Attracted
Attraction is attention, affection, and respect. To successfully attract others by including attention, affection, and respect, you can follow the below given points.

Like Attracts Like
According to Norman Peale, like attracts like, birds of a feather flock together. This being an important law of attraction does surely apply in this case as well. So, expect somebody to like you only if you like them.

The Act of Giving
God loves a cheerful giver; the act of giving is more divine than receiving. Let your heart share what you have with others. Giving or donating something gives a very positive and satisfied feeling. Give without expecting anything in return; it need not necessarily be something very big, even donating blood can be a big thing if you perceive it that way. The feeling to give should come from inside, from one’s heart in order to feel blessed and buoyant.

“Humility is not renunciation of pride but the substitution one pride for another”, suggested Eric Hoffman. Charity, tolerance, and humility have supreme value. Humility and inner peace go hand in hand. Try to believe in yourself rather proving things to others. Being humble will let you achieve a lot of things, however you should set your ego aside because both ego and humility cannot reside simultaneously.

Faith and Patience
Faith and patience are pre-conditions of attraction or being attracted. So have faith in yourself, and be patient.

Be Attractive to Yourself
What we tell ourselves about our lives day after day has a great effect on our personality. If you see yourself as an attractive and charming person, you’ll generate positive vibes or ways that would help you attract or get attracted.

Stay Cheerful and Happy
When you smile, your brain puts into action, the endorphins―the natural pain relievers of our body. Other than that, a smile relaxes you and makes you feel peaceful and content. Smiling doesn’t cost you anything, so always greet people with a nice smile. Like Andre Crippa says, “We do not completely love those at whom we cannot smile.” This means if you find comfort at smiling at a person, the chances of attraction are more likely. It is also said that a smile is the shortest distance between two people.

Enthusiasm & Passion
The former is the mother of success; it brings money, power, and influence. Ralph Emerson says “Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” If that’s the case, then how can one possibly attract or get attracted without being enthusiastic. Do whatever you do with full enthusiasm, being enthusiastic is one of the keys to attraction.

“Good manners is the art of making those people easy with whom we converse.” said Jonathan Swift. Good behavior, courtesy, and kindness make others believe in you. Inculcate good mannerisms, behave politely with everyone; good manners do the trick of attracting a lot of pretty eyes towards you.

“The senses have been conditioned by attraction to the pleasant and aversion to the unpleasant: a man should not be ruled by them; they are obstacles in his path.” says the Bhagvad Gita. This simply means that attraction to a certain extent is pleasant and rewarding. However, a lot of it can develop into desire, and desire breeds anger. So, controlling attraction is very essential.

The below given theory sheds more light over the concept of attraction. Take a look.

Theory of Attraction
Attraction Theory is defined as the theory concerned with the process involved in attributing causation or motivation to a person’s behavior. Why are we attracted to certain individuals and not others? Many scholars believe attraction is based on people who are more similar to us. “Reinforcement and attraction are positively correlated, the more reinforcement one gets, the more attraction one feels” (Byrne, 1967). Attraction is based on three major factors (see DeVito, 1998):

Attractiveness: A man’s personal qualities and a woman’s physical attractiveness are the most common factors of attraction.

Proximity: “The people who become friends have the greatest opportunity to interact” says DeVito. Proximity simply means closeness. If you’re close enough to a person you like, attraction is more likely; friendship is a means of progressing a step further towards attraction. However, attraction doesn’t solely mean friendship.

Similarity: Perceived similarity is the degree to which we believe another’s characteristics to be similar to ours. However, similarity in its true sense means thinking on similar lines, or having similar interests. Proximity plus similarity would surely help one attract or get attracted to another.

Beautiful Ideas to Make Your First Date Special

Okay, so you have finally managed to get into the good books of that new girl in tight jeans in your college, and gone so far as to get a date with her. However, perhaps you are feeling jittery about it right now. It is normal, though. About 99% of the populations feel shivers running down their spine when the first date comes around. The rest 1% of the population are Don Juans, and I am sure they will not need this article in the first place.

Enough of the small talk now! We need to put your little love-struck heart to rest, and soon. Read on to find some cool ideas for this special occasion. Of course, you must remember to be suave enough to carry them ahead. So, bonne chance, and read on.

Idea # 1 – The Amusement Park
My favorite place to take a girl out on a first date is surely the amusement park. Really, I am not joking! Most girls like that sort of stuff, even the older ones do! And there is so much to do in an amusement park that you will be soon out of time. You can do fun things together like bumping cars, going whacky on the roller-coasters, racking your brains out laughing at yourselves in the funny mirrors, or simply eating candy floss together. And then, you can cozy up in a small café in the park and get to know each other better!
Pros: Amusement parks are meant for fun. Even if your girl has come in a nasty mood, she will lighten up soon and enjoy with you. Also, you will be able to impress her as a fun-loving young man.
Cons: You might not find a comfortable corner for just the two of you. Amusement parks are usually crowded.

Idea # 2 – The Cinema House
The cinema house is always a favorite when guys are planning their dates. Nowhere else can you get to sit so close together (so close that you can actually smell her hair!) for so cheap! You must make sure it’s a movie the girl likes, though. Or she might attach the mediocrity of the movie with you. In a lighter vein, the cinema hall is the perfect place to hold hands if you wish, and even land a tiny little peck on the cheek – an initiation to a good relation. Girls, in their part, do love to weep during melodramas (keep handkerchiefs ready) and scream their lungs out if it’s a horror flick. Speaking of that, it’s really fun to take a girl out for a horror movie. You might have to convince her, though.
Pros: Movie halls are cheap and you can share popcorn and other things together :).
Cons: If she hates the movie, she might hate you! Make the choice wisely.

Idea # 3 – The Beach
When it comes to planning a first date, the beach is always right. It is open and crowded, so girls feel safer on beaches, and beaches are fun. You can sit under a parasol and gossip about things, you can get an ice cream for her, play Frisbees … be a regular Archie and Veronica for a day, if you want! Just make sure your eyes do not stray to the other sights on the beach – that could be a super fiasco!
Pros: Beaches are the cheapest option, and there’s lot of fun to be had. Where else could you have a chance to check out your girl in a bikini on the first date? If things go wrong, you can even admire the other bikinis.
Cons: The beach idea might not work if your girl is the bookish type. You might not know, but there is a species of girls who do not like beaches. If your lass is one of them, check out the next idea.

Idea # 4 – The Bookstore
The bookstore? Come again? Yes, buddy, you heard it right – the bookstore is an excellent idea for many reasons. Firstly, girls love books. Some of them also read them 🙂 Okay, serious now … At the bookstore, you can get to know what the girl’s likes and dislikes are. That comes in handy if you are contemplating a gift for her. You can check out what her tastes in music are. Wise men say people who have similar tastes hit it off better. So, you can actually get a hint of how far this relationship can go. Yes, the bookstore is a good idea for future planning. And whoever said a bookstore is all about books? There are cafés where you can sit together and chat – some of these cafés are really very cozy.
Pros: You get to know more about the person in the bookstore. And you need not buy anything. If you do that, this is the cheapest date idea.
Cons: You might feel a bit bored if you stay too long. Or, worse, your girl might feel bored. However, that really depends on your likes. I know of people who spend hours in bookstores without feeling a tinge of boredom.

Idea # 5 – An Expensive Dinner
Let’s face it – all of us cannot afford an expensive dinner on the first date. But if you really have that kind of money, and if you are something like a celebrity who cannot be seen in cheap public places, then a dinner in a swank restaurant is the best bet. It is very wrong to say that the surest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Wrong, because it applies to women too. And girls go more for visual grandeur. So, if you are able to have an exclusive five-course meal with her and show your gourmet knowledge, there’s no doubt she’ll be impressed. And it will pave the way for a second date. Discreetly, you can decide to do something cheaper the next time. It would work since she already knows your gastronomical etiquette. Make sure to decide the next date before the dessert comes in!
Pros: Makes way for a long-lasting relationship, filled with happy gastronomical delights!
Cons: Money, money, money! Get those American Express cards ready.