Marriage Advice for Women

Women are way better in terms of understanding the needs and wants of their men, rather than the other way round. However, there are still some missing blanks, which, if a woman is able to fill, can ensure a wonderfully happy and long-lasting wedded life with her husband. The following humorous pieces of advice are nothing but those missing blanks (in addition to a bit of inside information).

Marriage Advice for the Ladies

Space. Give your man his space. Most women have heard about this, many have even understood it, but very few actually implement it. A man’s mind is a mysterious maze. At times, it does not rely on logic, but on instinct, gut feeling, or his mood. At times, it is best to just let him be. Let him do his own thing and he’ll be the happiest bloke in town, which in return, is good for you too.

If you go shopping with your man and you catch him glancing at another hot woman across the street, let me tell you, it is completely normal. 101 out of 100 guys have a wandering eye. I mean, we’re born with it. It’s in our blood! However, it does not mean that we’re having an affair or that we’re cheating. Do not confuse a wandering eye as a sign of infidelity. So basically,
Your guy checking out another woman → Perfectly normal.
Your guy checking out another man → NOW, you’ve got some worries!

If his old schoolmates phone to inform about a last minute football match, on the same day that you both had plans to redo the kitchen; take a deep breath, count to five, give him a sweet smile (even if it is fake), and allow him to go. Believe me, gestures like these really count and they do help in strengthening the bond between husband and wife.

Man and machine have a relation of their own, and one which is rarely interpreted or understood by women. Men are freakishly obsessed with their cars, home theater systems, and other similar electronic gadgets and gizmos. These things constitute a man’s ‘territory’ and trespassers are not generally welcomed with open arms.

To all women who are of the opinion that men are heartless creatures made of stone, let me tell you, that’s not quite the case. Men are like coconuts. We may appear to be all stony, grumpy, and hard on the outside, but there is a softie inside each one of us. How well or cleverly a woman identifies her man’s soft spot (and uses it to her advantage), often determines how strong their bond is, how alive their romance is, and how smooth their relationship remains.

The best way (and believe me, it is the quickest) of bringing life back into a seemingly dull marriage is through sex. Nothing works better. It is your trump card, your master key, a small spark which instantly grows into a raging fireball. Believe me ladies, the best way to get to a man’s heart is not through his belly, but through the bedroom!

Newlywed women, please note the following point. One thing that a woman must avoid at all costs, is back-seat driving. Men are capable drivers, and to be frank, much better too! Back-seat driving is a strict NO. It annoys us like crazy. Oh and since we’re on this subject, here’s another point. When driving to an unknown destination and along an unfamiliar route, if he finds himself in unfamiliar territory, your man will wait nearly until eternity, before he admits that he’s lost. It’s a guy thing. There’s no logic to it, I completely agree, but that’s what it is. It happens. So, the best thing you can do in such a situation is, let him figure out things for himself. Pitch in with your suggestions or solutions only after he has exhausted his. To you it may sound like a completely absurd thing to do, but you should do it. It’s just one of those things which have no explanation.

Ladies, boost your man’s ego from time to time and make him feel good about himself. It’s a guy thing, once again, there’s no real logic to it. Praise him for a job well done, even if it is as silly or simple as fitting a light bulb, or changing your baby’s diaper. Making a man feel good about himself will boomerang back into benefits for yourself.

Finally, accept your man and love him for what he is. He may forget your birthday, buy the wrong variety of dish-washing detergent, absent mindedly get you a bunch of beautiful fresh flowers which you’re unfortunately allergic to, and embark on a rare mission of cleaning the house, which only results in him leaving it in a bigger mess, than what it was originally. But don’t forget, at the same time, he’s also the one who will cover you with his jacket during a chilly midnight walk, try his hand at hilariously silly poetry just because he knows you like poems, and patiently put up with all your mood swings and cravings during that time of the month. Yes, men are goofy, but in quite a lovable way. Love him wholeheartedly and show him that you do, and he’ll be yours to cherish for a lifetime of wedded bliss.

Last but definitely not the least, smile. Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than her lovely smile does. Women rarely understand the immense power of their beautiful smiles. It can make the roughest and toughest of men go weak in the knees. It can tame a lion of a man into something you want to cuddle up against. A flash of that smile can melt his heart, keep you close, and never apart. (That was my line by the way!). So ladies, smile more! We simply love it when you do!

Use the tips given above and have your husband completely besotted with you. A marriage whether old or new, needs to be worked on. So, keep that spark alive and love him unconditionally.

Two Secrets of a Happy Marriage

In the era we live in, the divorce rate rises continually. Back in the fifties, the divorce rate in the church was much lower than the divorce rate in the world. Yet, nowadays, the divorce rate in the church is the same as that of the world.

It is very interesting to observe that among Hasidic Jews, this means Jews that still have prearranged marriages, the divorce rate is zero! Incredible, isn’t it? However, when asked about the secret of such a low divorce rate, the main ingredient was respect. “We respect one another.”, they said.

Another survey showed that among the Christian couples who pray together (I mean really making time to pray, not just saying the blessing at the table) the divorce rate is incredibly low, less than one percent. Obviously, here praying together is the key.

These two categories have given, along with their answers, an important indicator to a marriage’s stability. Let’s see more about respect and prayer in marriage. How can respect be nurtured in your relationship?

1. First of all you need to realize that your spouse is not primarily yours; what I mean is that he or she belongs to God, he/she is God’s ‘property’ and it is God who gave him/her to you. You will also have to give an account to God concerning the relationship with your spouse, you are supposed to grow together closer and closer to God’s image and in this process you also grow closer and closer to one another.

2. Jesus said, “Treat others the same way you want them to treat you.” That involves knowing your partner better each day and treating him/her as they want to be treated. There is one important thing to note here, treat him as he wants to be treated (not as you want him to treat you); I am making this distinction clear because women have certain expectations like being paid attention to, listened (not only heard), ultimately all these lead to one thing: respect. The same way, men need to be respected, they need to know that their partner admires their qualities in private and in public as well. However, people are unique, your partner is unique, that’s why you as his wife and you as her husband should know best your partner’s love language.

Just as you can’t make a sparrow swim or a fish fly, the same way, you need to create a suitable environment for your spouse, telling him/her you love and respect her/him using her/his own language. Many times the way you want to be treated is not the way he wants to be treated by you, he might just not perceive certain gestures the way you do; that’s why, you have to learn, use, and continually update your partner’s love language.

3. Pray together, stay together. Prayer creates an incredible bond between people, and especially when it comes to marriage, God, the inventor of this institution, will surely strengthen it and help the two make marriage what it is supposed to be. Being thankful every day for your partner, with him/her actually hearing you saying ‘thank you Lord for my husband/wife’ is such a blessing and such a great healer! It can heal deep wounds; this gives depth to your love and respect levels. Just being grateful for what God gave you.

It is in prayer that you realize better and clearer how together you form a whole, and that you should complete each other and not compete against each other. Ridiculing each other is a habit that can be fun at first, but once it reaches maturity, its fruits are bitter. Therefore, coming before God every day, simply allows you both to revolve around the steady axis that can really reinforce your marriage and put you back on the right track.

Spinning one around another as a couple is not sufficient, people change, feelings can be up or down, situations differ, yet God is the same, always, never changing, and this stability and advice that you can receive only from His perspective, is of a great value in marriage; actually the best advice ever!

Through prayer God will also remind you of how beautiful He wants your husband or wife to become. Married couples know the ‘cruel truth’, that there is neither Prince Charming nor Snow White.

You will be reminded each day of how precious you actually are in the eyes of God, and that will make the task much easier for you as your spouse will not rely on you for his/her self-esteem. The main problem with many people comes from their low self-esteem, it not only brings them down, but it will surely affect their marriage too.

Forgiveness is another precious jewel you can receive through prayer, and oh, if your partner is breathing…it means you are likely to be offended; that’s why forgiving is also crucial. Above them all, the infinite love of Love itself―God, will be poured in your hearts and your joy of living will be continually refreshed by His Holy Spirit living inside you.