What are the Advantages of Being Single

It’s indeed wonderful to be in a relationship but there are times when we will be alone. Of course, being single can be a blessing as well as a curse. The reason for people being sad and lonely is that they usually see only the cons and not the pros. A single life need not necessarily doom one to despair and loneliness. Rather, it is important to appreciate the many advantages, some of which include cheaper living, job growth opportunities, etc. What are the advantages of being single? Some of them are discussed below.

Freedom

Freedom is no doubt the most important merit of being single. Freedom allows more spontaneity in life: you can go anywhere or decide on anything without being answerable to anyone. Being single allows you to be master of your own life and self, rather than compelling yourself to be what you are not. Men don’t have to worry about missing the Champions League football finals to watch the movie of the week, for the sake of their partner or family and vice versa for women. For men, being single at some stage helps them to become skilled in different household chores like cooking and cleaning.

Control Over Finances

This may be the bitter truth. Relationship besides time, requires money, and a lot of it. When single, you are in full control of your expenses. You save a lot of money instead of spending it on overpriced movie tickets or costly dinners. Also no worries about Valentine’s Day or Christmas gifts, birthday presents, or 1 month or 10 week anniversaries. Men can pamper themselves by buying a Sony Playstation 3 without getting an earful later. Women, on the other hand, can pamper themselves with a piece of jewelry or buy a new dress.

Control Over Time

We live in a busy world where people often complain that they don’t have time, although they have planned a month’s holiday beforehand with their partners. When you are single, you have time for yourself. You can give time to your hobbies, friends, family, adventures, sports, etc. This time can be utilized for personal enrichment, like working on enhancement of your career.

Decreased Stress

Stress is the major cause of all kinds of health problems. When single, you do not face the amount of stress that you would have in a negative relationship. If a marriage relationship goes sour, there is lot of stress involved in getting out of the relationship. Singles are free to choose the kind of relationship they want to be in.

Some Other Advantages
You don’t have to tolerate annoying habits of your partners like snoring, etc.
You get to know who you really are when you are single. It can give you a better awareness about yourself.
You can have a great night life. Many cities provide exhilarating nightlife to attract singles.
You can avail job growth opportunities.
You have more time to spend with friends, more time to study and more time to flirt.
You are in complete control of your TV remote.
With so many advantages, there is no reason why anyone who is single should feel sad or lonesome. We should just look at the positive side of things. The next time you find yourself alone, don’t panic, instead CHEER UP. Nothing is lost if you don’t have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. In fact there is everything to gain!

How to Handle the Pain Love Brings You

In the early stages of a relationship, it is difficult to imagine that the one for whom you have such strong feelings could ever hurt you. It is also hard to imagine that you could ever cause the one you love pain, especially when everything is so new. The beginning is always sweet and nice, but sooner or later, something less than perfect happens and one of you gets hurt.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “you always hurt the one you love?” It’s so true, isn’t it? You may not mean to, but at some point, you may do something, or not do something, that your significant other is hurt by. The opposite is also true. As a matter of fact, relationships sometimes end because of this. However, they don’t always have to.

What to Do If your Loved One Hurts You

If you are in a healthy relationship, then the hurt was unintentional. It is important to realize that your loved one didn’t plan to cause you pain, so try to see the situation from their perspective. You should try to calm your emotions down and then talk to them about what they were thinking, why they did what they did, or said what they said. Be willing to see things from their perspective. Once you hear them out, they will be more willing to hear what you have to say. Explain how you perceived what they said or did, and why you were hurt by it.

You might not be able to communicate this right away, so you should wait until an appropriate time when you are not clouded with emotion. This is easier said than done, but you should give it a try. Waiting can help you avoid saying things that you don’t mean because you are hurt and angry. Get it off your chest by talking it out or writing a brief note or an email. Don’t just hold a grudge, because it will only hurt you more.

What to Do When Your Loved One Feels Hurt

The most important thing that you can do is listen. Showing that you care about your partner’s feelings is essential to help them heal quickly. You might not understand why they are hurt initially, because you didn’t mean to hurt them. Make an effort to see it from their perspective, and try to help them understand your intentions better. Communicate to them that you do care about their feelings. Apologize if you did something wrong. Make a sincere effort to acknowledge that you could have done things differently, and express plans to avoid that kind of thing in the future. Make it clear that you didn’t mean to hurt them, and that you want to avoid doing it again.

What Not To Do

If you feel hurt, don’t:
Yell
Try to get revenge or make them pay
Hold a grudge
Demand an apology
Insist that you are right
If your loved one is hurt, don’t:
Disregard their feelings as silly
Say you’re sorry unless you actually mean it
Pretend to understand
Insist that you are right
Ultimately, clear and honest communicate can help heal the emotional wound. Be willing to do both, to listen and to talk. If forgiveness, care, and understanding are working parts of your relationship, there won’t be that much pain, and you will enjoy a long-lasting and healthy relationship that is true to life.